Three Ways To Use Accountability To Change Your Life starting now

Once I began to learn how to truly harness the power of accountability, that’s when I really began to see things shift in my life. I became accountable for EVERYTHING; the good, bad and the ugly. And let me tell you it was not easy! But oh so worth it. I can say that it is one of the highest lessons I’ve learned in my life.

The more I utilized being accountable, the more I became aware that the only thing that was holding me back from anything was me. The only thing I had to change was myself. The choice to do or be anything was always in my hands. No one else’s. This is extremely liberating because it freed me from expecting that I needed others to change or “life” to change in order for my life or myself to better.

Everything that was showing up in my life was a reflection of things that I was allowing to happen based on the choices that I made, or didn’t make.

Accountability with a twist

I think we all know what the word accountability means. But many of us may not necessarily know how to use it on a regular basis in our life. However, if we break the word down a little deeper it can give us a clearer analysis of the importance and power of this word.

Think of it in a banking sense. An account is usually where we hold our money and valuable assets. Also, we can only spend or extract from what we already have in our account. Now add to that the word ‘ability’ which means our capacity to do or effectively manage something. Put it all together and you’ll see that being accountable is quite literally managing your own valuable assets (your life). You see that the ball is always in your court. There’s always a choice that you can make to change the direction of your life. I hope the light bulb moment has happened for you at this point.

Now let’s look at “we can only spend or extract from what we already have in our account” because this is very crucial. In its simplest terms it means that if what’s in your account is mostly thoughts regarding lack; that’s all you can pull from. You will be focused and mostly speaking on lack. So, you have the ability to manage lack very well. And you know what happens next? You experience a lot of situations that leave you in lack. Lack is what predominately shows up in life for you.

Here are three additional ways accountability can change your life

Stop the blame game

The fact of the matter is we play a role in every scenario that shows up for us in our lives. That may be hard to hear but life is built around choices. We always have a choice and I know many may disagree with this but it’s true. Even down to the thoughts we think and the conversations we have within ourselves that are kept hidden from others. Using accountability in this aspect points the finger back to you. It requires you to go within yourself to see what part you played.

Sometimes you really have to dig deep to find the answer. But you’ll never find it by placing all the blame on someone else. If you place all the blame on someone else, you’ll never learn the lesson that was meant for you. Thus, you may repeat the same cycle all over again.

Be mindful of your thoughts and feelings

This one is really significant. If you’ve read any of my other blogs, you’ll see how often I speak of the power of thoughts and emotions. They are deeply tied to creating situations in our life. I would go as far to say that our thoughts and feelings are the basis of creation. We’re usually focused on something internally before it shows up in our physical reality. We usually miss it because most people are unaware of their unconscious thought patterns. They believe that their thoughts and feelings have nothing to do with the creation of their life’s experiences.

Accountability plays a huge role in this because it guides you to become aware of what is really going on inside of you. It causes you to pay attention and connect the dots of how your dominant thoughts and feelings materializes into an actual event. So, when a situation appears you’ll have the ability to go within yourself and say “you know what, I was giving a lot of my thought and emotional energy to that so I see why that played out the way it did.” And again, you can only extract what’s already in your account. So, if you mostly fear that you’ll lose your relationship, don’t be surprised when a bunch of problems start to show up.

Be accountable for your choices

“I didn’t have a choice” is something I hear quite often and I have to even catch myself when I find myself saying it. I have gotten so accustomed to it that no sooner as the words leave my mouth, it is followed by another voice that says, “you always have a choice.” And I get it, sometimes in life things happen so fast we feel as though we didn’t have enough time to make a sound decision.

However, for the most part we have plenty of time to ponder or really check in with ourselves to see what’s the best choice we can make for our highest good. Even if you don’t see it in that moment, utilize the power of self-reflection afterwards to see how the choice you made got you to where you are. This also isn’t to say that every choice we make will be easy because it won’t. However, we must remain aware that choices is one of the most powerful abilities we have. And just because something seems like a difficult choice doesn’t make it wrong.

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